Prepared, structured sessions
Your mediator does the prep work. You show up ready to make decisions, not wade through paperwork.
Not $15,000+ in hourly legal bills. Parenting plans, property, and finances, worked out with a neutral mediator, usually in one prepared session. 100% remote — Pittsburgh, Allegheny County, and anywhere in Pennsylvania.
It's normal for one of you to get here first. You can book the free call alone.
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"To my surprise we finished in one session and are both feeling ready to move forward."
Service area
Pittsburgh, Allegheny County, and every other county in the state. Sessions run on Zoom, so where you sit doesn't change the process — Squirrel Hill, Mt. Lebanon, Erie, Harrisburg. Same prep, same three-hour session.
Most people going through a divorce don't want a courtroom, attorneys charging by the hour, or a judge deciding what's best for their family. Mediation is how couples take control of that process themselves — together. One neutral mediator. Every issue resolved. Written down. Most couples finish the mediation itself in weeks, not months, at a fraction of what litigation costs.
People call this wanting an "amicable divorce." Here's the honest version: you don't have to be amicable yet. You have to be willing. The process handles the rest.
A word from your mediator
Everything covered in your $1,495 flat fee — no hourly billing, no surprises.
Your mediator does the prep work. You show up ready to make decisions, not wade through paperwork.
No commuting to an office. No scheduling around a courthouse. Meet from wherever you're comfortable.
Ryan is trained in conflict resolution — not on your side or theirs. He keeps conversations productive.
Every decision gets put in writing so you leave each session with a clear record of what you agreed to.
Built from hundreds of sessions, neuroscience research, and a genuine commitment to what actually works.
Ryan meets with each person separately, one-on-one. He listens for what you're afraid of, what you're hoping for, what you expect to run into — and what would personally help you feel comfortable, confident, and ready. No surprises. No ambushes going in.
Before the session, both of you receive the same four questions to reflect on. Research shows this kind of priming shifts people out of fight-or-flight and into a collaborative mindset — so you arrive oriented toward agreement, not still bracing for a fight. Most mediation practices skip this entirely and throw you straight in. We don't.
You'll complete a questionnaire covering the details the session needs: assets, debts, kids' ages, income — all of it. So when you're together, you're not sorting through paperwork. You're making decisions.
Most couples get through every issue in a single three-hour session. You come in without an agreement; you leave with a written record of everything you decided. Some situations need a second session — you'll know early if yours is one of them, and we'll talk about what that looks like before you commit.
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Most couples don't realize how wide the gap is until they're in it.
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"I was a ball of nerves before our virtual mediation session. Ryan's calmness, casual approach, and insights helped us get through very difficult topics to the point of an agreement. The nerves quickly went away."
"We were at a stalemate. Ryan was fantastic — balanced, fair, and helped us reach a resolution that will only strengthen our co-parenting."
"We were able to self-file for divorce and avoided lawyers and litigation altogether. Ryan was incredibly responsive, kind, and most importantly — knows his stuff."
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The person who'll be facilitating your sessions.
Professional Mediator · Flannel People Mediation
Ryan trained specifically in conflict resolution and divorce mediation — not litigation. His approach is structured but calm: he keeps sessions moving without taking sides, so both people leave feeling heard. He works from St. Paul, Minnesota, and mediates remotely for couples across the country, Pennsylvania included.
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$1,495 per person — flat fee, no hourly billing. Each spouse pays separately. Compare that to divorce attorneys, which typically cost $15,000–$30,000+ per person in contested cases. Mediation is one of the most affordable ways to reach a divorce agreement.
It's the total cost of mediation — prep, the session, and the written record of what you agreed to. Flat, per person, no clock running. It doesn't include court filing fees or an attorney if you choose to have one review your agreement — many couples don't. And if you've seen $299 online document services: those type up an agreement you already have. Mediation is for when you don't have one yet.
A trained mediator meets with both spouses (together, over Zoom) to help you work through decisions on parenting, property, and finances. The mediator doesn't take sides — they guide the conversation so you reach agreements yourselves. Sessions are structured, prepared, and documented. Most couples finish in a single structured session; some need a second.
Yes — 100% of our sessions are remote via Zoom. No shared waiting rooms, no commuting, and you can join from wherever you're most comfortable. Online divorce mediation works just as well as in-person and is often easier to schedule. Sessions run on Zoom regardless of which side of Pennsylvania you're on — Pittsburgh, Mt. Lebanon, Cranberry, Erie. Ryan works from St. Paul, Minnesota, and mediates remotely for couples across the country.
That's what mediation is designed for. You don't need to agree on anything before you start — the mediator helps you work through each issue one at a time. Most couples are surprised how much they can resolve when there's a neutral person keeping the conversation productive.
That's normal. Most mediations start with one person doing the research while the other is still somewhere between denial and "fine, whatever." You can book the free consult on your own — you don't need your spouse's permission to ask questions. If mediation looks like a fit, I'll tell you exactly how to bring it up with them.
No. A divorce mediator is a neutral third party who helps both spouses reach decisions together — they don't represent either spouse and don't give legal advice. Most couples go through mediation without attorneys on either side. That's often the whole point: working it out together keeps costs down, the timeline short, and the process collaborative instead of adversarial.
The free 15-minute consult is specifically to figure that out. Ryan will honestly tell you whether mediation makes sense for your situation. If it's not the right path, he'll say so — no pressure, no cost. A few situations where it's usually not the fit: someone needs emergency court protection; one person flat-out won't participate; or the finances are tangled enough that formal discovery has to happen before anyone can negotiate.
Most people sit with this for a while before they talk to anyone. If you have one question, what it costs, whether your situation fits, how to bring it up with your spouse, text it. I answer these myself.
To: Ryan · (763) 316-8323 Hi Ryan, I have a question about divorce mediation:Tap the message to open it in your texting app. Goes to Ryan's actual phone, not a call center.
No obligation. No pressure. Ryan will ask a few questions, you'll ask yours, and you'll leave knowing whether mediation makes sense for your situation.
Here's what happens on the call:
Fifteen minutes. You'll know by the end of it.
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