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"Mediation is never fun to go through - but Ryan excelled at navigating emotions within the topic and bringing up constructive ways to problem solve (instead of just checking a box). I would highly recommend him."
4.9 · 250+ Reviews · Family Business Mediation · MN & Remote
You built your Minnesota family business to pass down.
Right now, there's nobody to pass it to.
When the people in your org chart are also the people at your dinner table, ordinary conflict resolution doesn't work. This is different — mediation for family businesses across the Twin Cities and greater Minnesota.
No commitment. 15 minutes. Free.
In almost every family business call I have, both people say they want the same thing. They mean it. They just can't figure out how to get there on their own.
— Ryan McLaughlin, Flannel People Mediation
You already know what's happening.
Every disagreement ends up in your inbox. They CC you on everything — the emails that start professional and finish personal, the ones that make you wonder how it got this bad. You're the president of the company and the referee at Thanksgiving.
They live five minutes apart and won't wave in the driveway. At work, they get their jobs done — mostly — but the tension is in every room they share, every meeting, every handoff. People around them feel it.
You've tried talking to them. Separately. Together. You've watched them agree in the room and go right back to it the next week. They're not bad people. They're stuck. And you can't step away from this business until it's unstuck.
There's almost always a number in the background. Sometimes it's a formal appraisal — $1.8 million, $3.4 million — done years ago and treated as gospel even though the business has changed since. Sometimes it's what one sibling thinks the buyout price should be versus what the other one was told by their accountant. The number becomes the proxy for everything that can't be said directly: who worked harder, who sacrificed more, who the founder always trusted more. Nobody's really fighting about the number. They're fighting about what the number means.
Doing nothing isn't the answer. You know that.
Tell me what's going on. I'll tell you if I can help.
This isn't HR. It isn't therapy. It isn't a lawyer.
Each of those has its place. None of them are built for this.
Not this
HR Mediation
HR follows policy and protects the organization. When the conflict is between family members and the business itself is on the table, it doesn't reach far enough.
Not this
Family Therapy
Therapy explores why. You need them to make decisions together — about roles, about authority, about what happens when things go sideways again.
This
Family Business Mediation
Built for when the conflict is both personal and professional. Business structure and family dynamic, at the same time. You leave with agreements on paper.
Here's exactly what happens
No surprises. No ambiguity about what you're walking into.
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Free 15-minute call with you
Just you and me. You tell me what's going on — the business, the people, the history, what you've already tried. I ask questions. You leave knowing whether this makes sense, and what it would look like. No sales pitch.
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Individual conversations with each person
Before I bring anyone into the same room, I meet with each participant separately. I find out what they actually need — not what they're saying in the group chat, but what's underneath it. This is where the real work starts.
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Full session — everyone together
Structured. I'm in the room the whole time. We work through what needs to be decided: roles, communication norms, decision authority, what happens when something comes up again. Nothing gets finalized until everyone can live with it.
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Written agreements
We leave with something on paper. Not a legal contract — a working agreement. What everyone committed to, what the process looks like if things get stuck again, and what the succession path looks like if that's on the table.
What a realistic outcome looks like
Not perfection. Functional. Which, right now, would be everything.
Mutual respect at work
They don't have to be best friends. They have to be able to sit in the same meeting, disagree without it becoming personal, and move forward. That's it.
Clear roles and decision authority
A lot of the fighting is about unclear territory. Who decides what. Who has to be consulted. Getting that on paper removes a huge amount of the friction.
A different communication pattern
No more CC'ing you into every dispute. A protocol for what happens when they disagree — one that doesn't require you to referee from across the building.
A succession path you can actually see
If the goal is to eventually hand this down, mediation can open that conversation. Who wants what. What has to be true for that to work. What happens if one of them doesn't want it.
Ryan McLaughlin
Mediator · Flannel People Mediation · St. Paul, MN
My work lives at the intersection of family and money — conflicts where the professional and the personal are impossible to separate, and where getting it wrong has consequences that last for decades.
I'm not a therapist and I'm not a business consultant. I'm a mediator — which means I stay in the room while hard things get said, keep the conversation from going sideways, and make sure everybody gets to where they said they wanted to go. I understand business structures: roles, decision authority, the difference between an org chart problem and a relationship problem, and what it takes to make both workable at the same time.
The conflicts that matter most — the ones that touch money, identity, and family simultaneously — don't respond to pressure. They respond to structure and someone who isn't on anyone's side. 4.9 stars across 250+ Google reviews from people who walked in skeptical and left with something they could live with.
Ryan has 4.9 stars across 250+ Google reviews.
Here's what the experience is like.
★★★★★
"What stood out was his ability to keep the discussion calm, direct, and productive, even when emotions were high. He didn’t take sides or overcomplicate things, but instead helped keep both parties grounded and focused on decisions."
★★★★★
"He provided clear structure and instruction for a very challenging and emotional process. I felt like I could speak more clearly and listen better because of the structure Ryan provided and ways he paid equal attention to myself and the other person in mediation."
Questions I usually hear on the first call
Mediation is voluntary. If someone is flatly refusing, it won't work — you can't mediate someone who won't show up. But "I don't want to" often means "I don't know what I'm agreeing to" or "I'm afraid of what happens if this doesn't work." The free call is often useful just to figure out where the resistance actually is.
That's one of the first things we figure out together. Sometimes the founder needs to be part of the session — especially if succession is on the table and they're a decision-maker. Sometimes they're better as an observer. Sometimes they're the reason the kids are in conflict and sitting them in the room makes it harder. There's no standard answer — we decide it together based on your situation.
Family business conflicts are usually more layered than a single-issue dispute, so I typically plan for two to three sessions. One for individual conversations, one or two for the full group. If the succession piece is on the table, it may take more. We scope it out before anything starts.
Family business engagements typically start around $3,000, depending on the number of participants and sessions needed. It's a flat-fee structure — I'll give you a clear number before anything starts, based on the scope of your situation. No hourly billing, no surprises.
Mediation doesn't always produce a full resolution — but it almost always produces clarity. Sometimes people leave knowing exactly what the business structure needs to look like going forward, even if the relationship part needs more time. Sometimes one person decides they don't want the business, which is also useful information. Doing nothing has a cost too. At least this one has a direction.
100% remote via video. This is often better for family business situations — people tend to be more measured on camera than in a room together, and it removes the logistics of getting everyone to the same physical location. It works anywhere in the US.
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Free 15-minute call. No commitment.
Start with a free 15-minute call.
Tell me what's going on. I'll ask a few questions, you'll ask yours, and you'll leave knowing whether this is the right move — even if the answer is no.
You're on the calendar.
Check your email for the confirmation. Here's what to expect before we talk:
- Think about who the key people are and what you'd want each of them to walk away with
- Note anything you've already tried — what worked, what didn't
- No prep required beyond that. We'll figure out the rest on the call.
Questions before the call? 763-316-8323