Your Relationship Deserves 3 Honest Hours.
A structured intensive for couples who are stuck, struggling, or considering the exit. Not therapy. Not vague advice. Three hours of real tools from a mediator who's guided hundreds of couples through their hardest conversations.
Here's What I Hear From Couples — Before and After
Before — From Couples on the Brink
- •"We knew things were bad. We just didn't know what to do about it."
- •"We tried therapy but it was too slow. By the time we got serious help, too much damage had been done."
- •"We kept hoping it would get better on its own. It didn't."
After — From Couples Who Did the Intensive
- •"We finally had a conversation instead of a fight."
- •"I didn't know we could actually talk about money without it blowing up."
- •"We left with a plan. Not feelings about a plan. An actual plan."
Whether you're on the brink or just tired of the same fight on repeat — three focused hours can change the trajectory.
The Research
2.6 years
Average time couples wait after recognizing serious problems before seeking help
Doherty et al., Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 2021 (N=270)
70-90%
Of couples who complete structured intervention report improvement in relationship satisfaction
AAMFT meta-analyses, Journal of Marital and Family Therapy
Comparison
These approaches are complementary, not competing. But if you need tools NOW — this intensive gives you something to use tonight.
Three Hours. One Conversation That Changes Everything.
Hour 1: The Truth
Each of you gets uninterrupted time to answer one question: "Where are we actually at?" Not the polite version. The real version.
I use active listening protocols — you speak, your partner listens without interrupting, then I mirror back what I heard to make sure you were actually heard.
I'm listening for destructive communication patterns. How deep they are. How much time you have. Then I tell you exactly what I'm hearing — no sugar-coating, no judgment.
Hour 2: The Tools
Based on what came up in Hour 1, I teach you specific communication techniques:
- Interest-based negotiation — Moving from positions to interests
- Reframing — Turning attacks into requests
- De-escalation protocols — How to call a timeout productively
- Breaking impasses — The mediation technique for getting unstuck
We practice these in real time with your actual issues. Not theory. Skills.
Hour 3: Apply It
We pick the recurring conflict that's actually doing the damage — money, parenting, division of labor, intimacy — and we facilitate that conversation using the tools from Hour 2.
Then we build your 30-Day Action Plan:
- • The ONE pattern each of you will stop
- • The ONE new practice each of you will start
- • Your repair protocol for after the next fight
- • Specific check-in times to stay accountable
PLUS: A 30-minute follow-up call in 30 days to troubleshoot.
Therapy Helps You Understand the Problem. This Helps You Solve It.
Couples therapy is valuable. If you're processing trauma, exploring deep emotional patterns, or dealing with mental health issues — therapy is the right place.
But here's what I see all the time: couples go to therapy for months. They understand each other better. They know WHY they're stuck. But they still can't have a productive conversation about money. Or parenting. Or who does more.
After 6 Months of Therapy
You understand why money fights trigger you. You can articulate your feelings. You know it's about security and trust, not the actual dollars. But when the car needs a $3,000 repair, you end up in the same fight.
After This 3-Hour Intensive
You have a specific protocol for money conversations. You know what to say when emotions run high. You've practiced it with me. When the car needs a $3,000 repair, you use the protocol. It's not perfect, but you get to a decision without destroying each other.
They're complementary, not competing. Therapy digs deep. This builds skills. If you need both — start with the tools. Tools give you hope that this is actually fixable.
What Couples Say
"Ryan's calmness, casual approach, insights, and cohesiveness throughout the session helped us get through very difficult topics. I was relieved to find someone who spoke to us and for us."
— David H.
"What started as immense fear for me in coming forward turned into one of the most redemptive and empowering processes I have ever experienced."
— Google Review
"Ryan is a very relaxed but knowledgeable mediator. Not stuffy or formal at all, which helped me feel at ease during the process. After our session I felt informed and clear on how to move forward."
— Alexandra Rose
Investment: $997 per couple
What's Included:
- ✓ 3-hour virtual intensive via Zoom
- ✓ Customized 30-day action plan with specific commitments
- ✓ 30-minute follow-up call in 30 days
- ✓ Email support between session and follow-up
Optional add-on: Want a second facilitator in the room? Add a co-facilitator for an additional fee. Ask about this during your free consultation.
For perspective: 3 months of weekly couples therapy typically runs $1,800–$3,600. A litigated divorce averages $15,000–$20,000.
How It Works
Free 15-Minute Call
We talk honestly about where you're at. If this intensive is right for you, we schedule it. If you need something else, I'll tell you.
Schedule Your 3 Hours
Virtual via Zoom. From your home. Early morning, late evening, weekend — whatever works.
Show Up Ready
Both of you. Cameras on. Willing to be honest, try something different, and actually practice the tools.
About Your Facilitator
Ryan McLaughlin is a restorative mediator, trained facilitator, and former attorney. He has facilitated hundreds of mediations — divorces, custody disputes, business conflicts — and now applies those same structured communication techniques to help couples who want to stay together.
His approach is grounded in conflict resolution science, behavioral research, and the communication protocols that actually work when two people can barely stand each other. No clinical coldness. No suit. Just direct, honest facilitation from someone who's seen what happens when couples don't get help — and what's possible when they do.
256+ five-star Google reviews
Based in Minnesota
100% virtual
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