Civil Mediation · Minnesota

Resolve your civil case
before it reaches trial.

From $1,995 per person, flat. No hourly billing. One prepared 3-hour session, scheduled ahead of your court’s deadline. See the three options →

  • A private call with each side. Lawyers welcome.
  • Homework first, so nobody meets a hard question in the session.
  • The mediator doesn’t pick a side, or a number.
Ryan McLaughlin, mediator

Your mediator is Ryan or Kate. Neither side is their client. With a lawyer or without one, both sides get the same process.

15 minutes, free. Or text Ryan: (763) 316‑8323

Same mediator. Same three parts. You pick the room.

Flat prices, no hourly meter. The only thing that changes is where the session happens.

  1. Start here

    On Zoom

    For two sides in different towns, or who aren’t ready to share a room.

    • A private call with each side, lawyers welcome
    • Homework and written questions before the session
    • One three-hour session on Zoom
    • Your decisions in a written summary

    $3,990 for both sides

  2. In person · St. Paul-area conference room

    For two sides who talk better across one table than across two screens.

    • The same three parts, with the same mediator
    • Your session at a St. Paul-area conference room
    • Coffee on us
    • Your decisions in a written summary

    $4,590 for both sides

  3. In person · near your courthouse, anywhere in Minnesota

    For cases outside the metro, when both sides would rather meet in person, close to home.

    • The same three parts, with the same mediator
    • Your session at a conference room near your county courthouse
    • Travel included, anywhere in Minnesota
    • Your decisions in a written summary

    $5,590 for both sides

Not included: attorney fees and court costs. One side can pay for both sides, or you can split it.

Book my free call

Free, 15 minutes. We pick the setting on the call.

Our three-part process

The Flannel Three-Part Process

Built backward from your court’s deadline. Nothing is scheduled until both sides have said yes.

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Part 1 · The one-on-ones

15 to 45 minutes each · private

We meet with each side, separately.

If you have a lawyer, they’re welcome on your call. These calls are confidential. We use them to understand what each side needs from a resolution, and nothing goes to the other side without your permission.

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Part 2 · Homework

Before you meet

No re-arguing the case. Just what’s on the table.

You’ve each already filed your side, so you don’t need to argue it again for us. Send the documents and numbers you’d want on the table if this settles, and anything you think the filings leave out. After the private calls we send each side its questions, so nobody meets a hard one for the first time in the session.

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Part 3 · The session

3 hours · scheduled ahead of your deadline

One three-hour session, together.

If you reach an agreement, its terms go into a written summary before we end. Either side’s attorney can turn it into a signed settlement.

What the court order changes, and what it doesn’t

The judge picked the deadline. Nobody picked the outcome.

What the order sets

That the two sides try mediation or another form of ADR, and the date it has to be done by.

What it doesn’t set

Whether you settle, or for how much. The order sends you to the table. What happens at it is still up to the two sides.

What we don’t do

File anything, contact the court, or tell the judge what anyone said. Anything your order asks the parties to file, you or your attorney file.

Read them yourself

What people are saying

4.9★★★★★285+ Google reviews
“Ryan did a great job throughout the mediation process. It took us two sessions to work through everything, but he kept the conversations productive and helped both sides stay focused on finding solutions.”
— Jose Samperio
“He didn’t take sides or overcomplicate things, but instead helped keep both parties grounded and focused on decisions.”
— Ann Starr
“Ryan was incredibly thoughtful and took time to truly listen to both our perspectives. His approach made the entire process feel fair and constructive.”
— Rose Ostenson

Read the reviews → · on Google

The people running the session

By the time a case has a trial date, each side has said its version in writing, under a caption, to a judge. That makes it harder to say anything else out loud. The private calls and the homework exist so there’s room to.

Your mediator is Ryan or Kate McLaughlin. Either one runs the whole process, start to finish, and neither represents or advises either side.

Ryan McLaughlin
Ryan McLaughlin
Mediator · Founder
Facilitative, restorative, and transformative mediation
Kate McLaughlin
Kate McLaughlin
Mediator · Rule 114 Qualified Neutral
Trained restorative mediator

4.9 stars · 285+ Google reviews · Meet the team →

Court-ordered mediation: straight answers

Something not here? Text Ryan.

How much does court-ordered civil mediation cost?

$1,995 per person on Zoom, flat, which is $3,990 for both sides. In person, it’s $2,295 per person at a St. Paul-area conference room, or $2,795 per person near your county courthouse, anywhere in Minnesota. There is no hourly billing.

Every option includes a private call with each side, homework and written questions, and one prepared three-hour session. One side can pay for both, or you can split it. Attorney fees and court costs are separate.

Our order has a deadline. Can you fit it?

Tell us the date on the free call. The plan is built backward from it: the one-on-ones first, homework next, then the session, with room left before the deadline.

If the calendar can’t fit your date, we’ll tell you on the call.

One side has a lawyer and the other doesn’t. Does that work?

Yes. A lawyer is welcome on their client’s private call and in the session. The side without one gets the same time, the same kind of questions, and the same process.

We don’t give legal advice to either side. Either side can have an attorney review the written summary before anything is signed.

Do you report to the judge?

No. We don’t file anything, contact the court, or tell the judge what anyone said. If your order asks the parties to tell the court that mediation happened, you or your attorney handle that.

Does our mediator have to be on the court’s roster?

Your order and the court’s rules answer that, not us. Check with your attorney or the court administrator before you book.

If your case does call for one, Kate McLaughlin is a Qualified Neutral under Rule 114 of the Minnesota General Rules of Practice. Say so on the free call and Kate will be your mediator.

Meet Kate →

Who decides who’s right, or what the number is?

You do. Both sides. A mediator doesn’t rule on the case, find facts, or pick a number. The mediator structures the conversation and makes sure both sides are working from the same page.

If you don’t settle, the case goes on as it was. That decision belongs to the judge, not to the mediator.

The other side hasn’t agreed to use you yet.

That’s a common place to start. You can book the free call on your own and send the other side, or their lawyer, this page.

Nothing is scheduled until both sides have said yes.

Does the other side hear what I say on my private call?

No. Neither side hears the other’s call, and nothing from it goes to the other side without your permission.

How do we prepare?

Start with what you’ve already filed, and the documents your numbers come from. You don’t need to argue the case again. The homework asks for what you’d want on the table if this settles.

What happens if we reach agreement?

You leave with a written summary of the decisions both sides made. It isn’t a court filing.

We help two people who don't agree on really tricky issues come to an agreement and put that agreement in writing. We don't draft court documents, we don't file, we don't do anything with the courts, and we don't give legal advice.

Either side’s attorney can review it or turn it into a signed settlement. What gets filed with the court, and when, is up to the parties and their lawyers.

Who will our mediator be?

Ryan McLaughlin, who founded Flannel People Mediation, or Kate McLaughlin. Either one runs the whole process, start to finish. If your case calls for a Rule 114 Qualified Neutral, that’s Kate.

Both are mediators. Neither practices law or gives legal, tax, accounting, or valuation advice.

Book your free 15-minute call

We call you at the time you pick. Have your deadline handy. You tell us where things stand, we tell you honestly whether the calendar fits, and you don’t agree to anything on the call.

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Educational Disclaimer: The information provided on this website is for educational purposes only and is not intended as legal advice, therapeutic advice, or therapy. Flannel People Mediation is a mediation service provider only. We help two people who don't agree on really tricky issues come to an agreement and put that agreement in writing. We don't draft court documents, we don't file, we don't do anything with the courts, and we don't give legal advice. We do not provide therapeutic services. For legal questions, talk to your own attorney or the court's Self-Help Center.

Flannel People Mediation provides mediation services only. Ryan McLaughlin does not provide legal, insurance, valuation, tax, financial, or business advice, and mediation does not replace your own counsel or advisors.

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